Food, Flesh, and Funds: An Unconventional Birthday Invitation
On August 6th, I’ll be 31 years old. I wouldn’t bring it up because 31 isn’t one of those milestone years that people tend to get excited about, but after three decades (plus 1/10th of a decade) of life I’ve finally caught on that many people also care about the little birthdays in between. They even get bothered if someone else’s birthday passes without a fuss. I’m obviously not one of those people, but I do appreciate that my feelings and generally poor memory for dates aren’t the only things that matter, even on my own birthday.
My past three birthdays were incredible – full of travel, and friends, and gifts so touching they made me cry – and this year I got a new computer and the quiet vacation in the country that I asked for. So please, if you’re thinking of buying something for my birthday this year, I’d like you to remember that I’ve been very fortunate, and there are probably people closer to you (in proximity or in life) for whom even a small gift will make a much bigger difference than it will for me.
For my birthday, I invite you not to celebrate, but to donate. Some of my favorite forms of giving are:
Give non-perishable food to local food pantries. This is one of the fastest and easiest donations you can make, and few things are as immediately helpful as wholesome meals.
Donate blood if you’re eligible to, and if you’re not, you can ask your employer (or your club, society, writing group, clique, etc.) if they are willing to host a blood drive. Can’t hurt to ask, and it could save lives.
While on the subject of literally giving of yourself, I ask you to please register as an organ and bone marrow donor. The criteria for these are often different than for blood donation, so even if you’re not permitted to donate blood, your other cells and tissues might still be useful and appreciated.
Support medical research. The odds are very good that your life has been impacted in some way by cancer, HIV, heart disease, autism, malaria or other health problem. The odds are also good that there is a trustworthy charity dedicated to funding research into better treating or preventing that problem. Please, before you spend any money on a gift for me, invest in the good fortune of us all by sending your money where it can help the most.
Besides food, flesh, and funds, the best thing you can ever donate is your time. Post a blog, make a video, tweet a link; take a moment to do whatever small thing you can to make the world safer, healthier, and kinder for others. Even if the only thing you do on August 6th is pause and listen to someone who only needs to be heard, it will make a difference.
And it would make me even prouder of my friends than I already am to see you express your affection for me in a way that benefits more lives than mine.
Promised I’d Share Gift Art
To show affection without going broke, I made art for my family this Festivus. I promised to share it with you, and here it is!
Summer Cottage by ~sandykidd on deviantART
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My tweets for 2012-05-16
- Children who have experienced trauma need hugs, help and hope. Your gift can help. http://t.co/jkKlvfLv #DT @operationSAFE 10:06:16, 2012-05-16
- And facade maintenance is expensive! For women in the workplace, it’s still about looks not deeds http://t.co/tON5HDN2 #fb 12:43:13, 2012-05-16
- @jolantru Hooray! in reply to jolantru 12:43:55, 2012-05-16
- Surviving the Anthropocene: Nearly one tenth of hemisphere's mammals unlikely to outrun climate change: http://t.co/G6vJcaaU #science #fb 14:21:57, 2012-05-16
- Yum! I get to try 2nd Street Creamery's Super Premium Ice Cream thanks to my Klout! #2ndStBoston http://t.co/AgtUBuyg 20:44:00, 2012-05-16
- I earned 1380 points for my workout on @Fitocracy! http://t.co/Rj6Lhg19 20:55:14, 2012-05-16
- Went rock climbing with @Bazrar, @RenaLeib, the cousins, and a family of friends from school. Very good times. #fb 20:57:36, 2012-05-16
- @galendara This time @Bazrar went up a wall with harness and rope (with help from a mom-friend). If we'd let him, he'd just dangle all day! in reply to galendara 22:35:21, 2012-05-16
- @galendara I'll see about getting some pictures up later.
How's your week? Arting it up? in reply to galendara 22:37:18, 2012-05-16 - @galendara The more @Bazrar climbs, the more he wants to climb. Even though heights make him nervous. I'm hoping we can make this a routine. in reply to galendara 22:59:06, 2012-05-16
- @galendara When you get your kiddo up and dangling, try describing the funny hopscotch of emotion you feel. I gulped on chills and pride! in reply to galendara 23:02:18, 2012-05-16
- @galendara My week's good. Arting it up, myself. Almost finished the secret lil animation I've been working on. in reply to galendara 23:03:34, 2012-05-16
- @galendara Thanks-ditto you at Drawsomething! (With luck, everyone will see it when I'm done. It's no big deal. Short/cute anim. for a proj. in reply to galendara 23:46:43, 2012-05-16
- @galendara
I have no idea what I'm doing. Winging it! But oh my poor arting wrist. in reply to galendara 00:00:04, 2012-05-17 - @inkgorilla I too would like to see animation by @galendara in reply to inkgorilla 00:00:49, 2012-05-17
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-15 http://t.co/T5HSwBvc 00:03:27, 2012-05-17
- @followthelede @djolder Gathering our crew together for good times.
in reply to followthelede 02:28:28, 2012-05-17
My tweets for 2012-05-15
- Sad: Why some scientists avoid any public outreach: http://t.co/SFoAmkcd 11:57:00, 2012-05-15
- Origins of language? Talking with your hands is innate, study finds http://t.co/pCz3xExf #science #fb 12:40:13, 2012-05-15
- For my SF writers: New nutrient bar boosts heart, brain and immunity. Provides fodder for fiction. http://t.co/BcxlOdSL #science #fb 12:44:31, 2012-05-15
- Bummer: Pay-to-play sports keeping lower-income kids out of the game: http://t.co/esVrAqZg #science #fb 12:48:56, 2012-05-15
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-14 http://t.co/xZysCIj4 00:07:54, 2012-05-16
My tweets for 2012-05-14
- Ugh, clothes shopping. #fb 14:49:59, 2012-05-14
- Children who have experienced trauma need hugs, help and hope. Be part of the healing! http://t.co/jkKlvfLv #DT @operationSAFE 16:11:12, 2012-05-14
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-13 http://t.co/d5QQ0BmR 23:59:08, 2012-05-14
My tweets for 2012-05-13
- Help us help children recover from trauma. Donate a daily tweet with one click. http://t.co/xWHOfDB1 #DT @operationSAFE 05:10:43, 2012-05-13
- Thanks, @djolder! @brooklynlinda @carolynedgar @grammercie @motherissues @iamrah @jonubian @cubanita_bean in reply to djolder 15:14:21, 2012-05-13
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-12 http://t.co/lfnvTJCK 00:04:29, 2012-05-14
My tweets for 2012-05-12
- Watching little kids play Tee-ball for lols! Go @Bazrar! #fb 14:18:13, 2012-05-12
- RT @Metafrantic: I'm at my son @bazrar's first ever t-ball game!!! http://t.co/l6Sw9Pu6 #fb 14:25:22, 2012-05-12
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-11 http://t.co/0znzvSPv 00:03:16, 2012-05-13
My tweets for 2012-05-11
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-10 http://t.co/bYJSmJhu 23:59:38, 2012-05-11
My tweets for 2012-05-10
- Too much happening this morning. I have art to do! There's no time for job stuff/writing stuff/household stuff! I need a nap already. #fb 13:10:32, 2012-05-10
- @DelDryden @brooklyn__ann THANKS! in reply to DelDryden 19:34:24, 2012-05-10
- @Bazrar just kicked my butt at Pass the Pigs! I love this game! #fb 23:07:08, 2012-05-10
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-09 http://t.co/xxTnihTT 00:00:56, 2012-05-11
- @followthelede Gracious! That's a late workday. *BOOSTS* I'd bring you food and booze IRL, but it'll be even later if you wait for me.
in reply to followthelede 02:04:39, 2012-05-11 - What am I, an epigenetic tag? @Klout thinks I'm influential in DNA! http://t.co/jBitXZXJ #fb 02:46:04, 2012-05-11
- @mediamacaroni Ha! Good point. in reply to mediamacaroni 03:55:45, 2012-05-11
My tweets for 2012-05-09
- The place I interviewed yesterday has been calling my references. *hopes and jitters* #fb 17:43:40, 2012-05-09
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-08 http://t.co/eeZyOx22 23:59:11, 2012-05-09
- Our @Bazrar is at that wonderful age when he can read bedtime stories to us. <3 #fb 00:14:10, 2012-05-10
- Check out the brain on this cousin-of-man: Zoo chimp makes elaborate plots to attack humans: http://t.co/fKj7XVsi #fb 00:43:21, 2012-05-10
My tweets for 2012-05-08
- On my way to interview 5 of 5. I could really use a natural 20 today… *rolls dice* #fb 12:42:11, 2012-05-08
- Interview 5 of 5 went well. Hopefully we'll have reason to celebrate in the next couple of weeks. #fb 15:37:10, 2012-05-08
- A killer tornado ripped through Tsukuba, Japan. Support through CRASHJapan http://t.co/yrvFU6TF #DT @operationSAFE 17:12:55, 2012-05-08
- @pauljessup That's great! in reply to pauljessup 18:28:08, 2012-05-08
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-07 http://t.co/xCW0XHMG 00:03:17, 2012-05-09
- Interview went well. Job is a step up from my old job. The people seem nicer, too. Naturally, I am afraid to get my hopes up. #fb 00:18:19, 2012-05-09
- @ArachneJericho Thanks! in reply to ArachneJericho 03:24:09, 2012-05-09
My tweets for 2012-05-07
- So proud of @Bazrar crushing acrophobia on the rock climbing walls yesterday! #fb http://t.co/UYBXS9pj 12:07:47, 2012-05-07
- Thank you, Dept of Unemployment, for giving me a rage headache first thing Monday. I'd been hoping for a check, but… Argleblargh! #fb 14:43:48, 2012-05-07
- @galendara We may climb again in a few days. My hope is that @Bazrar gets so comfortable going up he forgets to be anxious of going down.
in reply to galendara 17:18:36, 2012-05-07 - OperationSAFE volunteers helping children after the tsunami in Japan – video http://t.co/0qaYav47 "I am not alone" #DT @operationSAFE 17:24:09, 2012-05-07
- For those who missed the video yesterday: Off the Wall Rock Climbing and Jumping: http://t.co/8QQa5v6o 17:27:45, 2012-05-07
- @galendara Baz was all excited, but when we actually approached the wall he got nervous. Then bold when he discovered jumping onto mats… in reply to galendara 17:35:24, 2012-05-07
- @galendara I eventually told him that we could keep going back, but only if he would go at least one rock higher at each visit. He promised. in reply to galendara 17:36:35, 2012-05-07
- @galendara Climbing is a blast. Such a satisfying mix of thought and effort. I hope your son takes to it. in reply to galendara 17:38:55, 2012-05-07
- @galendara Actually, yesterday was my first time indoor rock climbing. But I grew up schlepping my tail up various rocks and mountains in AZ in reply to galendara 18:03:52, 2012-05-07
- @galendara I used to climb up to various caves, etc. for stress relief. But if I can ever go back to AZ let's all climb together indoors! in reply to galendara 18:05:50, 2012-05-07
- @galendara The skillset is the same, but the feeling can be so different.
Of course, I've yet to try belaying. Things to look forward to! in reply to galendara 18:08:07, 2012-05-07 - @galendara Was the weather nice for your outdoor climb? What mountain were you on? in reply to galendara 18:10:16, 2012-05-07
- @galendara @canyonrat56 So jealous. And look at your hands! Happy indeed. in reply to galendara 18:17:21, 2012-05-07
- New blog post: My tweets for 2012-05-06 http://t.co/ELl4IJEr 23:59:24, 2012-05-07
- Diversity is key! "..the importance of broadening representations in medical studies.." Blonde Solomon Islanders http://t.co/u7pxoWYE #fb 00:23:24, 2012-05-08
- Job interview 5 of 5 tomorrow. Let's hope I can make this one count so I can stop boring the internet with my unemployment updates.
#fb 01:12:24, 2012-05-08 - @DDSyrdal Thank you! in reply to DDSyrdal 02:27:13, 2012-05-08
- @jolantru Thanks! in reply to jolantru 02:27:25, 2012-05-08

